It does take two to tango well - by Priti Sherawat
How do you dance with your partner? Do you just allow yourself to be moved in a certain way, or do you gracefully time your steps for a beautiful coordination? So, how do you want to dance? Do you look forward to every dance knowing that it will be richly satisfying and an enlivening experience, or maybe you are apprehensive about dancing? Or, is it that you don’t know how your partner will dance and hence can’t coordinate your steps? So, are you looking to make your dance even more vibrant, rich and full of grace?
Relationships - every one of them are like dancing. The major difference is that when cultivated and taken good care of, they last a lifetime.
Numerology, a metaphysical science tries to understand personalities, and relationships via numbers. The numbers emerging from the date of birth and name are important as they define the area, within which we carve out our own paths as they resonate to our true nature. Once we understand our personalities better and get an idea of our destiny, it becomes easier to take better decisions as well as increase quality in many areas of life, including relationships.
There are so many different kinds of relationships, some of which arise on account of blood ties and the others form through social and professional affiliations. And then there are those, where the sense of a connection is enough to get the embers glowing, and then start a fire. We feel closer in some relationships and distant in others. Sometimes, we grow closer and then there are those, where we just appear to keep drifting apart. So, a sense of good compatibility helps keep a relationship going for a lifetime.
Is compatibility pre-decided or can we help increase level of compatibility in any relationship? To some extent, compatibility is already present between two people. Careful nurturing to make a relationship healthier, and stronger, requires that attention be focused on those elements of the relationship, or personality traits that are the foundation of the connection between two people. It also becomes important to be aware and disciplined in those areas, which could lead to potential conflicts. However, conflicts can be turned around in such a way so as to strengthen a relationship.
Let’s try to understand compatibility in a relationship via numerology. It is imperative to note that this is merely a starting point, and a map, which identifies key character traits, and possible turning points in the road of life. How we interpret the map, and how we then use it, is entirely up to us.
In numerology, all numbers are added to each other, whether in the name (each alphabet is assigned a number) or date of birth, in order to reduce the sum of the numbers to a single digit. The date of birth indicates the true personality and the destiny of the individual, whereas, the name number indicates what the person attracts, easily understands and hence generally identifies with. Thus having harmony within one’s own numerology profile goes a long way in having stronger relationships, as there is greater self-awareness. When date of birth and name numbers are quite different from each other, it is possible that the individual due to confusion about his own nature, finds it difficult to strengthen ties with another.
Assuming that an individual has understood his/ her own personality quite well, let us turn our attention to compatibility between two people. Numerology helps give an insight into relationship strengths and limitations or weaknesses, after one has identified the most important number in the numerology profile, which is calculated from the date of birth. Now, lets focus on the most important number emerging in any individual’s profile:
The numbers from 1 to 9 can be divided into two groups: the even numbers 2, 4, 6, 8 and the odd numbers 1,3,5,7, 9. The even numbers, in terms of relationships, are more conventional, enjoy partnerships and working in teams, and generally prefer being in relationships as opposed to being independent. The odd numbers, where relationships are concerned, can adapt and enjoy being in a relationship, however, they are more independent and unconventional. Tradition says that due to this nature of the even and odd numbers, the even numbers get along better with each other. Similarly, the odd numbers understand each other’s natures better and hence are more compatible with odd numbers.
So, does that mean that odd and even numbers cannot come together to enjoy a wonderful relationship? I would actually say that when odd and even numbers get together, there is always a spark as there is so much potential to the relationship given the different personality traits of the individuals involved.
When individuals with more even numbers in their profiles come together in a relationship, they generally enjoy very co-operative encounters as each one of them tries to grow closer so as to be able to enjoy a more structured and conventional relationship. In such scenario, it becomes easier to enjoy a more harmonious life, and pursue goals, which quite often could be common to both individuals.
When individuals with more odd numbers in their profiles come together, temporarily they may push aside their inherent tendency to be independent. Once the newness of the relationship wears off, the individuals concerned will have to consciously keep giving quality time to each other. Some of the odd numbers such as 3 are more outgoing, whereas some of the odd numbers such as 7 are more introspective, and solitary. It therefore also becomes important to enjoy a balanced life where both can enjoy their need for company or privacy.
When individuals quite different from each other come together to enjoy a uniquely fulfilling relationship, it will take them time to understand themselves and each other, and identify mutual goals and desires, which they can then enjoy pursuing in their relationship. Such relationships are like olives - they may not satisfy first, but then the unique taste simply grows on you.
However it is important to remember that it is the individual who can increase the compatibility with love, dedication, respect, sensitivity, trust and loyalty. So, though one relationship can start with greater inherent compatibility than another, there is no way of knowing which relationship will be more fulfilling and enriching. The destiny of any relationship lies not in the numbers but in the hands of the individuals concerned. So, do look into the insights, which numerology offers, and enjoy the heights that the relationship can take you, once you know yourself and your partner better.
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